Sisters of Grace

I have often sacrificed what is best for what is temporary. I may have been seeking a tangible need, but I was unwilling to wait patiently. I often wanted it now and would skip ahead and end up messing things up. For instance, I despised being single so much that I rushed to get married; without truly weighing the consequences of skipping steps. “You can’t gain anything without losing something first.” (Fullmetal Alchemist vol 18) I can now see, that I was not fully ready to commit myself fully. As Jesus said, “When I became a man I put away childish things”. (1 Corin. 13:11) I held on to ideals and lusts from my former years.

Furthermore, my husband and I were together for 3 1/2 years before we got married, but I was telling him very early in that I wanted to get married. I had fallen into the guilt of premarital sex, because being a Christian I felt great conviction. However, neither of us were ready for all that marriage entails and the consequences have been detrimental. Now that we have been married for 4 years next month, we are starting to see the reasons we should have waited. Marriage is a beautiful thing when both parties are healed, whole and ready. We both had not let go of our pasts but we clung to each other for answers.

Additionally, I advise you to take covenant relationships very seriously. We are created for relationship but they must be in the confines that God ordained. I urge you to walk in the ways of God and not jump into situations to please our unruly desires. Although my marriage has seen both good and bad seasons as with all marriages, I know God’s way is best. God’s grace has held my husband and I all of these years, because we were foolish. I am so thankful for his grace and mercy that are new each day!

Lastly, I said all of this to say that the things that we are seeking, striving and waiting for are all milestones we will reach at the right time for our lives. Do not rush the season that you are in by looking for something “better” or the next step. We should wholly enjoy the journey and the growth that comes from each destination.